TipsnTricks

First you have to love stars in the night sky...
Take a nice big soft blanket out into the yard, after dark of course, lie down and just star gaze.

Just talk and enjoy the view while gently running fingers up and down her skin. The night air will enhance the feeling. (Be naked if possible)
Take your time and enjoy. Give some gentle kisses and licks in any place that takes ya fancy. but don't go all the
way! Just keep on loving her until you think she will  explode. 
Try running your hands over her body just close enough to sense it but not actually touching any genitals. When she can stand it no longer, simply get up and go inside. When she asks "well what now?" You say "well that was it!" and head off to bed. *hee hee*

It sounds mean I know, but later when you turn her over  she will be a ball of passion...

If you've got a coffee table with strong legs,
they come in handy....
Just the right height!   <<evil grin>>

TipsnTricks

Tender moments....
Some of the best things in life are the simple things.

After hushing the house and going to bed and doing the usual kiss goodnight, cuddle up and hold her tight. Play with her hair. Get real close to her ear.....

And tell her a story.
YES ! A story!
A few nights ago, shortly after having bad weeks at work. I started telling my Grrl stories. In a low voice whispering something like the three bears or the ugly duckling or even make up your own. (I do that at times).
Anyway - are we to old to enjoy a good quite story in the arms of your life's breath?
The next morning, wake her up with a feather across her back and butt. Guaranteed  fun to follow!

Some times, as a relief its good to have a 'quickie'.
Mind you, this is not an every time sex move but it never hurts to let go once or twice.  I call it "instant dessert"!

Yup - I mean just that! because there is hardly any foreplay...That's for longer encounters. This is just a pressure valve kind of let go.

I once caught my Grrl in the garage. I asked her to take off her undies before leaving work. She wore a skirt that day, so those where the only things in the way. She did.

I was waiting in the garage when she pulled in. She got out of the car and I pushed her down on the back seat and started "desert". 3 minutes later, I was done and so was she! :):):)

In short, once a week or so just lay her down and have a quickie.

Their is satisfaction in just pleasing her.

Dear Ms B & Georgia, Well I am not sure where to start.
I am 14 years younger than my partner.
Is it normal for me to want to make love and hold her and kiss her all the time . I feel like I am being a 'male',  wanting to be intimate with her all the time and we are so in love , she just doesn't want to be in it.

I have tried talking to her and she says I am pushing her too much ...
Should I go to the doctors and get some tablets to kill my sex drive so we can carry on together forever?

Signed:  - UNHAPPY

Dear UNHAPPY,
To start with, let me say that I know exactly how you feel!!!
I spent 7 years in the same kind of situation.

 She was 9 years older than me, a very pleasing womyn, loving in most ways.
After the honeymoon period, she settled down and life began to take on a routine.  I found I was chasing her and she wasn't interested.
She would say "I don't think of sex all the time!" or she would wriggle so much in bed that snuggling was impossible. 

She said she felt 'tied down' if I tried to snuggle, and  she'd say that making love should happen naturally and I was just pushing it.
Does this sound familiar?

It wasn't too long when before I  started getting the "What am I doing wrong?" type of  feelings.

She always said she just didn't feel like it  or she was tired,  or would roll her eyes and say 'now!'.
Over a period of 7 years, I really had a lower self esteem because of it. 
Over time the whole relationship went downhill. I found myself always being the one to say "I'm sorry!". I found I was the only one standing in the door way trying to talk to someone who would just turn over and go to sleep and being told that I  over analyse every thing.

There were a lot of times i thought of myself as 'a selfish man', wanting and wanting....
 It was my father of ALL people that told me I wasn't wrong for needing the touch of the one I love - no matter how long or short the time is you have been with them. 

The distance grew between us.
How it ended does not matter, what matters is how you feel now and what you want out of life.

The way I see it, you have 4 choices:
1) Stay with her and learn to deal with your unhappiness and maybe over time you will adjust.
Sex is not ALL of any relationship.
2) Give her her space and see if not chasing her will bring her to you.
3) Try out some of the natural remedies on the market  that can increase her libido.
Horny Goat Weed for example.
4) Distance yourself from her and see if there is not something better waiting round the next corner.
This is the last option to ever consider, and I am not condoning you 'cheating' on her.

Remember no one in this situation is in the wrong.  ALL wimmin are different in their own ways, that is what draws us to them and your not in the wrong
for needing or wanting the touch of your lover.

If you decide on option 4, before you look around that next corner make sure you exhaust every means of making it work  between the two of you.
A broken heart is hard - if not impossible - to heal.

~Georgia & Ms B~

hi, I'm 18 and I'm in my first lesbian relationship, she is 25 and we've only been together 2 weeks, she's the most beautiful womyn I've ever seen, but I'm really nervous about the bed stuff like what if down there is to hairy or is just weird or something. I've had sex with guys, but is was all meaningless and there wasn't a lot of sober action. I just don't won't to put her off, and I want this to work SO MUCH but I'm afraid I'll freeze. I want to drive her crazy and I want us to come closer and to not drive her away. Please help!!
signed: Scared

Dear Scared,

If it is a real and true love then all you have to do is let nature take it's course, though I know this feels like it's more easily said than done!!  Trust me when you get past those first nervous feelings then it
will all come naturally to you. 

As far as the hair thing, think of it like a present that you have to unwrap before you get the prize. It doesn't bite nor scratch you, in fact it's very soft. 
If by some chance you are one of the few that can't go near body hair then make it a part of 4-play to shave her. You want to tease her and please her then be honest with her and things will work out.

Fear is a natural thing and you are not alone in this regard.
Every womyn feels that same fear when they encounter the same intense feelings that you are feeling right now.
All kinds of questions will run through your head:

.:.Am I going to be good enough?
.:.Will I know what to do?
.:.Will it taste funny?
.:.What do I do if it doesn't feel right?
.:.What if I can't get through the hair?
.:.Who goes first?

There is a world of questions that every lesbian would love answered before their first encounter - but let me ask you this...
If those questions were answered for you then would you still feel the same way?

Enjoy that feeling of nervous anxiety when she comes in close to you, and push away those doubts that run through your head!

It is no secret that my lover was a 39 year old virgin, who thought she might be gay, but assumed she was straight until we met.
Believe it or not she came for me first, and she had the same questions you have.
My advice to her, was to relax - and let it come naturally - and wow, did she relax and enjoy the
first experience!!

As my womyn said, when she saw me standing there naked in the shower, all her fears disappeared.
We enjoyed a beautiful wet and sensual 30 minutes exploring each others bodies for the first time.
From the very moment we touched and became one, it all came naturally.

It is not until you get past those first time fears that you can truly explore your inner self and explore your lover's mind and body.
Do not be scared - just enjoy and let yourself go.

And no, there is NO book on what "should" or "should not" happen!
Just go with your feelings, and her reactions...

Ms B & Georgia
P.S: We would like it if you let us know in the future how it went!